The problem is you wish it was a different answer and instead of accepting it, you whittle away what you know with rationalizations.Our thoughts and feelings have the power to guide and protect us, but it’s on us to listen to them.In time, my instincts gave me a big “I told you so.” Everything I suspected turned out to be true and the most painful breakup probably in the history of the world (or at least, in the history of my life) followed.Looking back, it’s frustrating to think how much time, energy, and hurt I would have spared myself had I listened to my instincts. Eric and I noticed that the girls who ask us super long winded questions–padding what could be a simple one sentence questions with a million examples and justifications–are the least likely to take the advice we offer and will instead counter with an equally long-winded rebuttal to everything we have to say (that is, if what we say isn’t what they want to hear, which it probably won’t be since what they want to hear is: “The fact that he never texts you back or won’t call you his girlfriend means nothing, this guy is The reason we know these girls won’t listen is because all they’re hearing is the clatter of justifications instead of the sound guidance of their gut.Think about how much hurt you would have saved yourself had you listened to that gentle voice that said: “You deserve more than this, you don’t need this guy.” The voice of your ego is loud and overpowering. He told you that you were the most amazing women he’s ever met, so I mean, DUH!He loves you.” Your ego shouts over the noise and convinces you that the outcome you want is reality because it has a lot at stake should this not be the case.
As an only child, I grew up with two artistic and unconventional parents who were more like friends and who taught me to always follow my gut instincts no matter what.Or maybe you meet someone who seems perfectly nice, but you just can’t stand them. The people we’re drawn to oftentimes remind us of people we’ve had positive encounters with in the past. You can pick up on things subconsciously without even realizing it and it will cause you to have a feeling that you can’t quite pinpoint or explain.The point is, most of the time you already know the answer.As a result, I’ve had no issues quitting a grad program after 6 weeks before it wasn’t the right fit for me, or cutting a mean cousin out of my life despite the fact that we were super close for years.This is just the way I am, so it often surprises me that people think it’s not always smart to make snap decisions.It has stored up pretty much everything that’s ever happened to us and makes decisions accordingly.