Everyone shows their romance in different ways, after all. Unless you’re Donald Trump Jr, it seems weird to leave it eight and a half months until you finally allow your partner to sift through your emails.Trust me darling, I have nothing to hide in my inbox.Ever been seeing someone and they’ve suddenly disappeared into thin air, never to be heard of again? Ever had that happen and then suddenly three months later the ghost has returned from the dead and started texting you as if nothing had happened? And if your OH as hopped from a relationship with you to an intense love affair with someone new in next to no time, you’re probably a victim of cushioning. You might be wondering when is ‘too soon’ to upload a soppy coupley picture of the pair of you on Facebook, or when to tell your mum that you can go to your cousins wedding with an actual date.The truth is that every relationship is unique and there are no time stamps for the important milestones.Our young, fast-paced society teaches us that we should exercise our right to simultaneously peruse all options instead of fully investing in one at a time.That means most of us chat with other romantic interests or even hook up with multiple at the same time, waiting for the most successful match to rise above the others in a chaotic juggling act.
We hadn’t discussed any expectations at that time, and after all, what else should you expect from two young twenty-somethings who met in a bar? Once I explained the norm I was used to, the jokes began about how this perspective was “so American.” I did my best to justify our tactics because I was too proud to admit fault, although I knew inside I was overcomplicating something that should be pure and simple.However, a survey conducted by revealed the average time that couples wait to do these things together.The survey asked 2,000 British men and women to map out their average relationship journey to give us all some idea of when people first do coupley things, from sleeping together for the first time, to going away together, to settling down and having children – and this is what they found…He took it hard, as if I had been cheating on him from the get-go.“In Europe we would never do something like this,” he said.This apparently applies to both women and men, so we assume the former refers to legs and armpits and the latter refers to a polite bit of manscaping.