It makes you want to squeeze them and go all doe-eyed, doesn’t it? Most of the time, it’s pent up hostility at their parents’ divorce.I can tell you that the kids are most willing to take out their pent up anger on you…the innocent new girlfriend who just happens to be proof that dad isn’t getting back together with mom. ” Don’t you remember how the twins acted towards dad’s new girlfriend (even though the new girlfriend was hideously rude and had a genuine dislike of kids…that’s not the point)?Don’t meet the kids right away; give the relationship with you and your guy time to bloom first.Most divorcees come with miniature versions of themselves. Here are these little people with half your man’s DNA. His kids might look like him, but they’re still their own little people, and those people have feelings.
While your fears are recognized by every other woman in the world dating a divorced man, it’s still not a good idea to be overzealous when meeting his kids. If you meet his parents, his brothers or sisters, his best friend even…be calm and be yourself. Let’s say you and your guy are getting along fantastically! It’s a rare thing indeed when an ex-wife can be nice to a new girlfriend.
This guy will need some time to adjust to the idea of a serious relationship. Perhaps you were well-prepared for a few snide remarks or some dirty looks thrown your way. On the other hand, did his ex throw you off kilter by being a complete psycho bitch?
Were the live images of her personality even more terrifying than the ones you imagined?
If you’re looking for the kind of man who’s going to say “I love you” at first sight, you’re dating the wrong guy.
Divorcees tend to take things slow, and with good reason.
So, aside from being the “bigger man” in the situation, and in spite of any feelings your guy might have towards his ex, you have to be cool so she isn’t interfering with your relationship (and yes, even unknowingly being talked about behind her back is a form of inadvertently interfering in your relationship).