See also: 500,000 people are paying for love on Tinder Tinder took to Twitter Tuesday night to express serious outrage about the story. Ok, so you know ghosting them would be super uncool, but it's not like you were officially dating or anything, so you don't want to make a big deal out of ending things either.You don't have fun together the way you used to, or maybe your feelings are heading more in the friend zone, or you're totally crushing on someone else. Don't try to force the other person to break up with you.Rather than instigating the breakup and being the "bad guy", your first instinct might be to pick a fight or act out in an insensitive way, forcing the person to dump you instead of the other way around. The stress of fighting with bae and waiting for the inevitable breakup will make you feel worse in the long-run.Tinder is not happy about Vanity Fair’s recent article, “Tinder and the Dawn of the ‘Dating Apocalypse.’ ” So unhappy, in fact, that someone with the keys to the dating app’s Twitter account had an entire 31-tweet meltdown, even claiming in one tweet that it has a massive user base in North Korea.
Think how you would feel if the roles were reversed.
If you've only been dating for a short while, you don't need to go into a huge saga about what everything that went wrong.
Be short and sweet: "I really liked hanging out with you, but I think we're better off as friends," or, "It hurt my feelings that you didn't come to see my leading role in the school play.
Plus, if you ghost someone and then run into them at CVS or randomly bump into them in the hall, it'll be painfully awkward for both of you. If they invite you to a party, you can say, "Thanks, but I'm going with my friends.
I'll see you there." Or the next time they chat you up in the halls, you can refer to them as a "friend" to let them know your true feelings. If they continue to ask you out after you've tried to express your lack of feelings, you need to tell them straight-up that you're not interested: "Hey, I had a lot of fun hanging out with you, but I see you as a friend and don't want to lead you on if you're interested in something more." Sometimes, honesty is exactly what the other person needs in order to move on. The first time you see your not-bae after ending things, offer a friendly smile and wave.
Sure, it might be tempting to just send a text or email, and avoid the awks of the other person potentially crying or getting upset in front of you.