’ So reading between the lines a bit, I suspect that hubby is a flirt, and wifey knows that he is too naive about the intentions of the women he is encountering, as one of the key attractors to a women is not being single but being with someone else. that the fact that someone else has already vetted them and thinks them Ok relationship material.
Now don’t shout at me ‘but what about sisterhood’ or ‘but they shouldn’t’; I deal in realities and the reality is that pre-selection exists and women can be very determined to get what they want.
1) If it was the other way around: The first big rule is what would you think if your partner was having the same friendship with someone else? This is one of the best measuring methods of whether the friendship is inappropriate.
2) Opposite sex: I’m not saying don’t have friends with the opposite sex, but this is a good clue to their being a potential problem ;o) 3) Many years age difference: Having a close relationship with a girl many years younger, or a guy who is much older (and of course it can go vice versa in this new world of the Couga!
12) Fancying them: If you ‘would do them’ as a male mate of mine used to say, then I can pretty much be sure that your partner won’t approve of the friendship.
11) Arranging to meet in a different scenario: A friendship normally starts in a particular social setting, e.g. So it’s a sign that there is a change in the air if you arrange to meet elsewhere for example coffee outside of work or lunch without your partners.Helping Mums with their worries and problems " data-medium-file="https://i2com/mummywhispererblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/Question-Corner.jpg?fit=110,110" data-large-file="https://i2com/mummywhispererblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/Question-Corner.jpg? fit=110,110" / Helping Mums with their worries and problems " data-medium-file="https://i2com/mummywhispererblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/05/Question-Corner.jpg?14) You already have a history with them: If they are an ex, then they could easily become a ‘present’!15) You are tempted to keep it secret: If you are tending to keep the conversations and meetings secret for some reason, then you know that internally you think your partner wouldn’t be happy, at which point I direct you back to point 1!7) Discussing partners: You might think that this means that the friendship is safe, because you are clearly pointing out the fact that you are taken. If they don’t know your partner and you haven’t or wouldn’t introduce them, then you need to think twice about the friendship.