More importantly, if they decide to take it to the final step and tie the knot, then for sure she’ll have to introduce the guy to her family.Here’s why this is a bit scary: Most parents here go to church and expects their children to do the same (even after they’re gone).Of course families from both sides will have to go through the usual faalavelave in preparation for the big day. After all, women are well treated in the culture and are beloved among their families.
These are just some of the common questions a Samoan girl would consider (including side notes for those currently living in American Samoa) before saying yes or no to a guy – as seen through the experience of others and of myself, a simple SUGA from American Samoa!
Even better than that is when you have a degree to back up your credentials or years of experience to make up for lack of degree or in addition to your degree(s).
Then there’s the land and the ocean that most Samoans live off of.
There are many factors that play into why this is the way it is. It shapes the ideal life path that parents want their children to follow. These are some of the questions a woman would ask to find out about a guy who’s interested.
One is that here in American Samoa, most of the time you get a job based on WHO you know and not WHAT you know. Attend school, get good grades, get a scholarship, go off island to attend a college and/or University, and then get a degree. People with degrees have a better chance of getting good-paying jobs than those without. She’ll try to find out as much as possible about a guy before diving into a relationship with him.
For some girls, the answer to the question will not affect her answer for the guy. But for others, it really does matter if the guy goes to church or not.