This chemically charged brain state can’t last forever. There is a cloud on the critical judgment part of your brain and you are literally blind to the shortcomings of your lover.The normal faculties that made you once think that his squeaky voice that was cute, or those clumsy quirks charming – are largely silenced when looking at your new lover. But after this initial phase, the brain activity starts to normalize again, and you being to notice and get irritated by things that were once deemed pleasant.In no way am I implying to avoid the sensations of lust and passion.
Your serotonin levels may also be reduced – often as low as someone with a compulsive disorder. Studies show that on average, in the first 6-8 months, the newly in “love” brain is in an altered state.Deep insecurity in the relationship can extend the feeling of being infatuated and ultimately delay reaching the attachment stage.It might seem great that you’re still overly obsessed with your partner five years into your relationship, but at that point, it might be worth exploring why that is.In the book, “Why Men Never Remember and Women Never Forget”, author Marianne Legato discusses a study that examined the brain patterns of people who had recently fallen in love.The study showed that a part of the brain that was activated has a lot of receptors of dopamine, the “feel good” neurotransmitter associated with motivation, reward and pleasure.When deep in the throes of love, in between the sleepless nights, heart palpitations and whirling butterflies, it is hard to imagine that such a high will ever fade. The ecstatic feeling when together and the obsessive missing when apart starts to calm down.